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Quarter Life Realizations




Things I realized throughout my quarter life


Let go of the things you have no control over.

Slowly I am learning to shrug off the things I clearly have no control over and things that's already happened but can't be undone. Clearly, all one can do is to change the way how you react to it. Realizing that holding a grudge about something petty and stupid is a waste of energy and just ruins someone’s day. So shake it off and go on about your day. No point arguing about something you cannot undo.

Growth is stepping out of your comfort zone.

Comfort zone isn’t always your home, or a place. It’s the people who’s always around you, your family, your friends, as I would say, your constants. It’s your bank account. It’s your daily routine. It’s your cellphone. Now, I’m not saying having these is a bad thing, but getting away from it from time to time can totally help you grow as a person. Talking to a stranger alone can teach you a lot of things already. May it be about his way of life, his travels, and a few life hacks here and there. When I started traveling, it made me realize that I am a noob at life and I still have a lot to learn. It also helped me keep an open mind on things, which I am grateful for. I see how much I’ve changed and matured over time, and that’s because I kept on pushing myself to do things I wouldn’t normally do. So Don’t be afraid to get out of your shell. Of course it will be uncomfortable at first, but it’ll be fun and worth it and you’ll be able to discover more about yourself along the way. 

You're not everyone's cup of tea.

I learned to stop wasting my time convincing people to like me and the things I like. It’s best if you surround yourself with like-minded people, people who appreciates you and supports you for you. Find your tribe. So I decided not to force people to watch my favorite TV shows anymore.


You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

It’s annoying when someone asks for advice and when you try shedding some light on them and give them a reasonable advice, they either make up excuses as to why it is not possible/doable  or just straight up ignore it. I mean, I’m trying to help because I obviously care about you, but if you don’t care enough to actually listen then it is up to you. I will not waste my energy, it’s easier to just say “I told you so.” 

Always, always be kind.

To anyone, to everyone. (Especially to people who serves your food 😉) Always be kind, and always be positive! Everyone is going through something, so make an effort to pass on some good vibrations! It goes a long way.

Life is easier if you care less about what others think.

It’s true we live in an overcritical world. We’re in the era of social media where posting something up on the web means an invitation for critiques! And it’s even harder for us Filipinos, if you know what I mean. 9 times out of 10, people are judging and will continue to judge you for whatever you do. Might as well stay true to your heart and be yourself. Don’t concern yourself with what others think of you. You do you, baby.

Dress to impress, always!

You’ll never know who you’re going to meet throughout your day, so better glam up before leaving the house. I take this very seriously now because I tend to come across either an old friend turned stranger, my crush, an ex and/or the ex’s current girlfriend, when I decide to dress up like a homeless person going out. I felt so uncomfortable during all those times so never. again. lol


If you don't have anything nice to say, shut the hell up.

And this is why I’m quiet all the time. Lol, just kidding. But yes, I wish people would bear this in mind. I mean if you know you’re going to hurt someone with your words, then just don’t say it unless absolutely necessary. 


Stop holding on to people just because you have a history together.

This is very important and people need to hear this more often. It’s never easy to cut off people from your life, especially when they’ve been a part of most of it. If you see more reason to let go of them rather than reasons to hold on to them, then it’s not worth it. Stop making your “history” together an excuse to hang on to that thin thread that’s obviously strangling you already. Toxic people are toxic, it’s just what it is. Cut them loose, you're better off without them.


Love yourself.

I can’t stress this enough, but please learn to love yourself. Embrace your flaws, be confident, and spoil yourself with the love you've been asking from everyone else, because in the end, it’s all you’ll ever need. If you finally learned to love yourself, then you wouldn't need someone else to be happy, because you already know you can be happy on your own. Yes girl, we're strong independent women!

Being single is okay!!!

Can we all stop putting pressure towards single people already? Stop single shaming! Lol. I realized I was in a relationship most of my young adult life and I never actually experienced life outside of a relationship. (Why am I so dramatic lol) I had 2 long term relationships and in between those 2, all I ever did was drink and party, and try to prove to everyone that I’m okay when I knew deep inside I wasn’t until I eventually got over it. Then next thing I know i’m all tied up again. I know I say it like it’s a bad thing, but I mean no offense hehe. (Again, I’m being overly dramatic) Anyway, this time is different though, I’ve grown so much and I learned to love my own company. I’m more than okay being with myself. I never would have enjoyed solitude back then and now I’m enjoying the single life and at this point I’m all I really need right now :)


It's okay to feel lost.

I felt like crap when everyone around me seems to have everything figured out, while I’m here typing my life realizations instead of actually having a life, still unsure of what I want to do with my life. I figured that some people may want more in life,  and it’s normal. It’s just a phase, I keep telling myself. Take your time in finding yourself and you’ll never feel lost again. Hopefully, we'll find happiness and contentment when we do. 

Always be grateful.

Even for the littlest of things, be thankful. We all know that there are some people who have it worse than us, so I learned to appreciate the little things in life and honestly it makes you feel good!


Rest, hunny, rest.

We are in the peak of our lives, where we have the time, the money, and the strength to do whatever the hell we want. It's the best time to grind and build for your future as well. We keep ourselves busy with our priorities, but don't forget to rest. It's very important to relax and gather back all your energy every once in a while, as we know work can be very draining sometimes. I plead guilty of this. I have been "hustling" all year long, kept myself busy as if I didn't have anything better to do. I'm a self-proclaimed workaholic. Though if I'm being honest, I loved being busy because that way I was focused and I didn't have to think about other things. I didn't want to be distracted. I was in the zone! But there came a time where everything was just too overwhelming and I couldn't handle it anymore. So I went on a holiday, muted anything work related and it felt so damn good! I have never appreciated REST like this before for now it is but a luxury to me, to some of us. So rejuvenate, bitches, we deserve it.

Declutter.

I am a serial memory hoarder. I keep silly little things that I would say has a significant value to me. From movie tickets to notes and letters. I had a huge box of keepsakes that I had filled out since I was in primary school! When we moved out, I sorted all of my stuff and decided to throw a few things out because I lowkey wanted to be a minimalist lol. When I scanned through my memory box, I saw all the "mess" that I have kept. (I just call them mess now) I mean, it gave me a good laugh, reading every letter I've kept, but I ended up throwing away three quarters of it. Honestly, I was a little sad that I did it but at the same time I felt relief as well. It was like a huge chunk of mess was finally out of my life. So I threw out things I didn't really need anymore, things that didn't really matter. I've never felt lighter my entire life. Decluttering and cleaning is my favorite thing to do now when I feel stressed - see how age changes you?


Keep moving forward.

Never stop improving yourself. Life is about growing and improving and getting better. Set your goals and never stop until you've achieved them. You can never grow as a person if you stay in one place. You can never reach to your destination unless you take a step forward.

Never settle for less.

Know your worth and never settle for anything less than you deserve. Good enough, is not enough. Enough said =P. And lastly...

Change is constant.

Things change. People change. Some things change for the better, some for the worse. Sometimes, it just can't be helped. So I've learned to accept it. It may be difficult at times, but I try to accept it as much as I can, if not completely. Try and understand the circumstances of why and how things happen, and just deal with it, perhaps look for a silver lining.


Speaking of change. I've been going on about this on Twitter. I am ready to leave this blog behind with the hopes of having inspired some readers who have been with me through this journey. And hoping that everyone who had made it this far down this post did not get bored or anything, enjoyed reading it and felt a little inspired as I was while typing them. Weird enough, it gives me comfort in writing down a reflection before the year ends. I mean, why wouldn't it? You get to see how far you've gone through your journey, how much you've grown as a person, and how much more you need to improve to achieve your goals. I highly suggest everyone to do this, probably not as dramatic as I've written it, but just for yourself, make a year-end reflection and see how far you've come.

As to why I'm abandoning this blog for the Nth time in the past two years... Blogging is fun but exhausting nonetheless. It's not easy to create a content, anybody who says otherwise haven't tried blogging. You have to be constantly doing or making things happen to be able to create a content. You have to be constantly creative and inspired. And since I got so busy with work, I barely had the chance to feel inspired let alone create anything so I decided to drop blogging just so I can shorten the list of things to do. Apart from the busy schedule, I also felt like I'm oversharing things on the internet, even though I've been blogging since I was in high school, lol the irony. Which is why I deleted my old Tumblr blog permanently where most of my personal thoughts are posted. I know I'm a social media queen, but I kinda enjoy being off the grid now. My facebook has been deactivated for more than a year now, and it's the best decision I made so far! I'm still on twitter and instagram but oh my god, this is next level lowkey for me. Baby steps, I guess.

My favorite thing about blogging though, is having to meet new people from all over the world and making new friends! I've met a lot of lovely people through blogging and I am forever thankful for it. It won't totally be goodbye though, you can still catch me on Twitter and Instagram. Until then, my lovely internet friends.


Now, 2018 has been great! It's been a year filled with adventures, love, and life lessons. Thankful for everything this year has brought me. My year keeps getting better and better, and the secret? It's all about perspective. I was a tad more optimistic than before and so far it's been pretty good. If you focus on positive thoughts, positive vibes will come your way. The law of attraction is real, I tell ya.  
Looking forward to whatever misadventure 2019 brings me.

Happy new year my loves! Cheers =)
N x

1 comment

  1. Thank you so much for sharing these realizations Nikka. What struck me most is "Life is easier is you care less about what others think" which is why I've decided to focus more on myself this 2019 hehe. Happy New Year, Nikka. May 2019 bring you all that your heart's desire :)

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